We all want to think that we’ll live in perfectly good health for the rest of our lives, but the unfortunate fact is that as we grow older, we will likely need extra help at home. Certainly, home care is preferable to any kind of community care or care within a facility. But still, some people may have issues with the idea of senior home care, simply because it can obviously be difficult to give up any kind of control within your home. But with nearly 70% of Americans turning 65 needing long-term care at some point or another, it’s a reality that a lot of us need to consider. If you have older parents, it’s something that you’ll need to think about for them far before you need to think about it for yourself. Choosing the right home health care services provider is one thing; it’s especially important that the individual you choose to work with your loved one is the right fit. But even if they are the perfect fit, that doesn’t neces
sarily mean the transition will be easy. You should prepare yourself as much as you can. With that being said, let’s look into some of the issues you need to be prepared for after you choose home health care services for your parents.
Now, this isn’t something that everyone has to deal with. Some people are perfectly fine with the idea of working with home health care services; others may even welcome the idea. But many resist the idea for a number of reasons. Parents struggle with the idea of becoming dependent on the care of their children, and especially outsiders, as they once provided care themselves. Furthermore, many see the idea of being cared for as an act of giving up independence. You should try to reassure your parents that accepting help is not the same thing as giving up independence, and in fact that they can maintain a certain level of independence by accepting senior home care, in a way that they wouldn’t be able to do if they moved in with you or into a facility. At times, this can be difficult to communicate, especially if your parent is experiencing cognitive difficulties. But have patience. This is a hard transition to make, but it may also be inevitable.
No matter how professional the providers of home health care services that you choose to work with are, there may be initial struggles. You need to be watchful, while at the same time carrying a certain degree of distance. If you’re constantly interfering, it can be difficult for the person that you hired to build a trusting relationship with your parent. You need to allow the two of them to have some time alone, and in time there should be a certain amount of trust built up.
While you do need to give your parent and their new caregiver time to adjust to each other, you also need to understand that some trial and error will be involved in the process. When working with a home care services company, they may very well advise that it will take some time for the two of them to get used to each other, but also that not every match is perfect. If your parent and their caregiver really don’t get along for the long term, you need to consider requesting a new caregiver. Don’t regard this as a failure, but rather as a success for you and your parent in terms of communication; they will appreciate you listening to their opinions. Furthermore, you will still have the opportunity to find a new caregiver that works perfectly with them.
Clearly, a lot of patience is required during this process — patience from you and patience from your parents. Think long and hard about how you’re going to introduce this issue to your parents, and furthermore when choosing the right caregiver for your loved one. Once the right choice is made, all of you will be so much more at ease.