When you have an elderly parent or loved one who requires assistance at home, especially if they have cognitive impairments or issues resulting in the loss of their mobility, it can be tough to watch them lose their independence.
Sometimes family members of seniors at home who need daily assistance or home care are stricken with feelings of grief; that they are unable to give their loved one as much time as they require or that they aren’t sure how to offer them the care that they now need.
Complicating those feelings is the sense of being overwhelmed with medical issues and household tasks while trying to manage their own families and career on top of that. Family caregivers often wonder if they are doing enough.
If you are looking for some simple ways that you can show your senior loved one that you care, that you are thinking about them, and that they are loved, here are a few things you might consider:
Write a note.
Have you ever received a hand-written card or note from someone you love? You probably have, but maybe not recently, as society opts for texting over talking and computers over paper. Consider writing your loved one a special note, written in your own handwriting, that tells them why you love them and what they mean to you. If they have trouble with eyesight, use bigger letters and space them out making it easier for them to read. Maybe even put it on beautiful stationery so they know that they are special and important and valued by you.
Give them a special day.
Who doesn’t appreciate a special day? Give your senior the gift of a whole day together doing the things that make them happy. Ask them what they would like to do, and treasure every minute of your time together. Maybe they have a favorite lunch spot, or want to take a drive somewhere. Maybe they have a place that makes them think of times when they were raising their family. Take pictures together on your special day so you’ll have something to look back on.
Reminisce with them.
Many seniors like to talk about good times in their lives. It makes them feel good to reminisce about happy things and days that they have experienced or things that they are proud of. Not only does sitting down and really listening to your senior parent allow them to feel good, but it also allows you to learn things about them that you might not otherwise find out. Consider it a history lesson, or help add to the family tree of knowledge as you make your senior’s day by giving them your undivided and loving attention.
Lastly, consider hiring a home care company to assist your senior as a way to show them that you love them and that they deserve the very best care and companionship. Professional caregivers are trained to come into your senior’s home and help them with daily household chores, medical assistance, and even personal hygiene if needed. If you can’t be there with your parent every day that they need help, do the next best thing by hiring loving and knowledgeable caregivers to fill in your place.